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A friend of mine said that they were trying to become balanced by not doing certain things. Here is my response to them and I think everyone can benefit from it.
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As for you being on a balanced path, a balanced path means that you feel inner peace in all that you do. A balanced path is not living up to other people's views, but allowing yourself to enjoy what you enjoy and being free. When you no longer feel uncomfortable in how you live, then you are balanced. So, in saying that drugs, alcohol, masturbation and junk food are of an unbalanced path, then you are wrong unless those are things that YOU do not feel comfortable in taking part in, but are open to doing them if you ever feel that you should take part in them. You said that you are straying from abstaining from those things and you get hurt from that. Is the pain because you want to take part in those things and you are conditioned to believe that those will hurt you, or are you feeling pain because when you take part in them, you feel uncomfortable in doing those things?
You have to know YOU. You need to be YOU. Everyone is different and from the sounds of that, it sounds like what a Buddhist book I read about was saying. The book "Keeping the Breath in Mind" said something like that was the basic vow of Buddhism or something like that. I once became asexual BECAUSE of my life and enlightenment. I didn't get enlightened because of becoming asexual. This goes to show you that the way of the Buddha is written down in books in a backwards manner. Yes you might find sex just something to do after you're enlightened or may not be interested in it, but you say that in becoming asexual, you'll be balanced, is not correct. Its like trying to build a bridge. When you build a bridge, you need to put down forms to pour the concrete pillars. After the concrete hardens, the pillars can be removed. If you try to pour the concrete because the end result is that of a rounded pillar, but you haven't put the mold in place, you'll wind up with a mountain of concrete. So, you can't treat the effect (having a finished pillar by pouring concrete) as the cause (you had a mold in place (enlightenment) that allowed you to have a pillar (not having sex) be built.)
So, be sure to look to yourself to see if you can qualify your beliefs in your heart, before you take any superficial vows or allow those views to come into play. Being in flow will be your balanced path. Pain is not flowing. Pain is a catalyst for change.
Keywords: Buddhism, balanced path, abstinence, flow |
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Author: Pharmf316
Posted on: 04/02/2012 at 07:02 am
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Author: S.C
Posted on: 04/15/2012 at 09:42 pm
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I found myself feeling and being quite negative. Things around me stopped working as well as they used to,regardless of how positive I was. I had heard of Dr Michell Gibson and his wife and there were many people out there who had nothing but positive things to say about their work. So I listened to a few radio interviews, and after I was convinced that this man and his wife were not con artists, I contacted them and began buying some of their CD's. In order for some of the exercises to work, I had to sustain from swearing and alcohol. The alcohol was not the problem it was the swearing. I never thought that it would make that much of a difference but it did. I began to pay attention more to the way I was interacting with people, the negative thoughts I was thinking and, the exercises worked. I doubt they would have been as effective had I continued to swear and drink. At first it did occur to me that perhaps, I was being much too hasty in stopping myself from swearing and drinking the odd glass of wine. After all we have to let off steam somehow but, I did notice a dramatic improvement in myself and my environment when I substained from these things. So I can only say that for me, it worked.
I do understand what you mean about people changing themselves, to become asexual because they believe that them a better person. |
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